I've realized that I'm coming off as uber self-sufficient not only because I am (out of necessity) but also because XH accused me most strongly of being too much of a princess when he "chose" OW for her non-princess qualities...
He kept telling me over and over that I was too needy and he left me for a woman who wasn't.
So that has made me think that the only way I'll ever attract anyone is to be super detached and self-sufficient.
There is nothing wrong with self-sufficiency. But if I'm coming off like a woman who doesn't appreciate a man holding a door for her, that's not me either, really. I do appreciate that sort of thing.
It's funny. I thought that the biggest thing I'd put out there was "no cheaters." Yet what I'm really putting out there is "I don't need you!"
Which means I'm still internalizing blame for XH's actions...not good!
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
