H has been thinking about how he is going to make out as a single person lately b/c he is trying to weasel/bully his way out of paying me what he had agreed to pay. He brought up the daycare provider saying why is it so expnsive and this and that. I explaned to him that the price is typical and this person can give him 1 on 1 care vs him being in a center, which is not a good idea for him as he is a very sensitive child. I also tried "being on his side" by saying i wasnt happy about paying for it eirther but felt it was the best situation for our s. After realizing that didnt work he switched gears to asking if i was re-enrolling in school, b/c if i wasnt he wasnt going to pay me alimony b/c i could pay for it myself if i was working full time. I responded that yes i was I said i have to go back to school and work. He sent me a nasty text back saying welcome to life. you should have finished 5 years ago. ouch he knows that bothers me!!! UGH My first reaction was to fight back saying i was a little busy supporting u while u finished, marring u and having your child, and then getting RA from having been prego with your baby, which you say u didnt ever really want A**H*LE!!!! But i didnt. I said "yea i should have. But I'm doing it now so thats all I can doI'm in the middle of something so i cant talk about this anymore now. hav a good rest of the day." He prob. didnt expect that response. Why is he being so nasty to me? He just tries to pick fights and valadate his reasons for leaving? Good signs? bad signs? I went to my first ic session 2 day as well. C encouraged me 2 write in a letter what i want to tell him that i havnt said. Basially me cknowledgeing my mistakes i made in the relationship and how ive been taking steps to find "me" again, that i wish for reconciliation but eirther way i will be happy and im moving on. and that iv forgiven him. I wrote it. but am still mulling it over. i dont think hes in a place where he can hear it. he just tries to turn around every nice/positive thing i do. I will post it later i think. btw 2morrow is our 4 year wedding anaversery. yea needin some help here