Back home - but for how long?

[Grocerykartman]

NYC,

Don't feel bad about truly beleiving her. Most of us believed our wives. This stuff is simply hard to imagine happening from someone you have been committed to for so long. Up to now, it isn't even like you are in denial about it, it's more like you just can't fathom it, even though something sure hasn't felt right.

2 things I want you to remember: First, always remember that you have thought the best of your wife through all of this, not the worst. You more or less have given her the benefit of the doubt. While that may seem like it was foolish, it was very genuine of you to not believe the worst. Shame on her for proving otherwise, not shame on you for beleiving her. That said, do not tell her this, keep that to yourself.

Second, you need to do your absolute best not to dignify "C-dawg." Because if you bring it up, you just dignify him, and he's not worth any dignity. If you start throwing around insults or diminutives about "C-dawg", it's simply not going to register with her. If seeing a guy nicknamed "C-dawg" didn't humiliate her already, you certainly won't be the one to be able to get her to see otherwise. I'm not saying at some point you shouldn't address this, but I strongly urge you not to act upset or in any way come off jealous or angry or really even so much as mention C-Dawg.

Don't do anything rash at this point. Seems impossible but try and go do something fun for yourself asap.

I wish you well.