Ugh. I am so frustrated. I gave my bf my usual friendly hug when I picked up our daughter and I asked when I could get another kiss (3 weeks ago he let me kiss him (and he kissed me back) for the first time in almost 3 years). He looked away and said, "I don't know, not now." And I said "soon?"as he walked to his car, and he said he didn't know. I called him a minute later and asked him, "When? Because it is important." He said he didn't know and he didn't feel like talking about it. So, now what do I do? I have the urge to call him right now and tell him he should tell me right now if he's planning to make me wait another 3 years, because if he is, I need to make some adjustments. That is not acceptable. If he can't do better than that, I should probably get over my major hangups about him dating and marrying someone else. Actually, I don't know if that is even possible. And of course I would rather figure out how to help him want to be affectionate. I kind of think he's afraid if he kisses me, we'll have sex and if we have sex, I'll get pregnant, and if I get pregnant, he'll have to marry me. He can't have TWO kids out of wedlock...
I knew this wasn't going to be smooth sailing, but I want to have a mutually satisfying relationship. He might be happy with the status quo, but I'm not.
Still, I'm glad I don't have the issues some women here do. My problems seem minor compared to some, but they are MY problems and they hurt
