Harrier, the sitter put her down tonight. I worry she'll wake looking for me. But even when I put her down, she's woken. She's definitely back in an overtired cycle, which started last Saturday when exBF brought her to his place and she came home hysterically crying. And it took me well past her bedtime to calm her down. It went from there.... and I tried all week to get him to correct it, but I mostly only said it once or twice, and he didn't listen. Now he's gone - so it's my problem. This is one of the major reasons I can't deal with her staying at his apartment.
BTW, he hasn't answered his phone in over 24 hours now. I left a message just now that was gentle, firm, and concerned - I hope I strike the right tone. I could have been "friendlier" I suppose - but I was a little annoyed sounding, so I would have corrected that if I could go back - I said I could see he was frustrated last night and I tried to help by taking her so he could get a break, even though I was on the phone, but then when I came out he was gone, and I didn't understand that. I said I know he wants me to support us now and take over, but I can't do both with the current issues around her sleeping. And that I know he's tired, but I am too and that she's our daughter, and this needs to be addressed in a straightforward way. That he said he'd stay two weeks and contact a psychologist; and so now it seems like he won't be doing that. I said I had two hours of sleep last night and it's hard to keep going like this and if he could call me so we can talk ...
NOthing.
adinva, I'm def. being forgiving. There's no other alternative at this point. Though locking her in a room wasn't exactly a brilliant move. Unfortunately, when I nap in the daytime, the bills don't get paid. Today I napped 90 mins and my eyes are burning. (I edit for a living).
But the positive reinforcement when she wakes is interesting - just don't know what else to do. I go to her. That seems natural. What else would I do?
