I have to chime in here. LilaGirl, parenthood's not for the faint of heart! It is HARD sometimes, and it can be frustrating to hear others who had it easier and have all kinds of advice. No offense to the advice-givers - brainstorming is helpful and judging is not.
My little sweeties got nursed to sleep and if they weren't asleep when Allie McBeal came on at 9 I was an angry person and H had to take over. We tried "ferberizing" or letting them "cry it out" and everything else, but we had strong willed children who did not want to go to sleep. I didn't do everything right, heaven knows, they slept with me a lot, and eventually it was two kids and the dog in the bed with us. We heard about it, everyone thought we were making a mistake, but cosleeping worked for us. Nursing worked for us. We created some of our own stress, sure.
What I want to tell you is this too shall pass. It seems like this will be your life forever, but one day you'll notice she goes to sleep better. And then - off to high school! Just kidding.
Relax, and be as forgiving of your exBF as you are of yourself. He may lose his patience sometimes, like everyone does.
Kids are complicated...she may even be getting some kind of positive feedback from the attention her sleep resistance generates.
Nap in the daytime whenever you get the chance, so you can catch up! Keep on truckin'.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
