I was lucky in that sense that my xh did not do those kinds of things to my son. My son has also told me that my holding it together was important to him.
My xh and son do not have the kind of relationship they had before this, of course. But, it is getting better and better. My son has told me that the way I have acted has helped this.
My son will not forget that his dad left him. That is something I cannot do anything about, unfortunately.
I am sorry your xh has done these things to your children. Shame on him.
Bea, there really is nothing you can do to chane their relationship with him. Only he can do that.
And I know you have been a source of strength for them and have acted with dignity and courage.
