Antonia, you ever hear stories about women who try for years to get pregnant and then they decide to adopt only to get pregnant while in the process? I know of at least 5 women that has happened to?
While I know there most certainly are fertility problems, I know for these women it was the stress. At least that's what they think. They feel the stress of trying to get pregnant and expecting to be pregnant inhibited them from actually being able to.
I tell you this because I think that when we try really hard to get something, often times the actually stress we put on ourselves stops us from obtaining our goal.
I also think that for me, meeting someone has to be a natural thing. It would need to be someone with whom I connect with common interests.
Taking all I have learned on my journey, it would have to be someone who likes me as I am. Someone I can hang with and laugh with.
I am over 4 years post bomb. I was not intersted in meeting anyone as knew I was not ready. I knew I still had things to work out and work on. It would not have been fair to anyone or to me to even look before I was ready.
I am dating someone now. I was not looking for anyone,. I was quite happy with my life and fine alone. He is someone I knew 30 years ago but had not seen since then.
It all happened by coincidence. We became reaquainted as friends. And it developed from there. I do not know where it will lead. I am very honest with him. He is, mnost of all, my friend.
My point is that when I wasnt looking, he fell into my life. I was fine without him and would be fine without him again.
So, just go out and make some friends. Do stuff that interests you. Put yourself out there and be yourself.
Dont worry about what type of guy you are looking for and what kind of guys there are.
Just live your life. Dont overthink these kinds of things.
What is supposed to happen, will. In the meantime, have fun and make a few more friends.
