Also, I worry about "consistent nighttime routine" -
With exBF putting her down, it's rarely consistent. If I put her down every night, it's not something that lets me do much else in the evenings. One night a week the sitter puts her down - I put her down three, and exBF and I four (together). Should it always be me? Or do you just meant the routine - book, cuddling, etc. (She doesn't do baths before bed b/c they are overstimulating for her.
Last night, I'll be honest - I didn't want to say anything to exBF but he rushes her home at 7:22 and thinks he can put her to sleep in 8 minutes. I didn't want to say "she needs transition time" (which is why you have to start at like 6 - dinner, pjs, washing, brushing, books, lights low, etc. but she can't transition in 8 mins. And so he started shouting at her, and I didn't hear it all (I was on my class conference call in another room) but it was bad, and when I got up to go see what was going on, that's when I found her in the dark room with the door closed and her banging on the door and shrieking.
