Living in the trenches....Thread #5

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Hey Navy:

Just checking on you. Feel free to let me know if i am crossing any lines here...

The convo you had with your wife is eerily similar to some convo's i had with my wife.

But i think you did pretty good. It was a calm rational talk and the second time at-least you did not take the bait for bringing up the past.

I think once our fragile egos are hurt, it is very hard to overcome the hurt and try to work on the R. I think your wife is facing a similar issue. She's feeling this big hurt that she's been wronged for 7 years. It will not matter at all if you try to explain out anything there. She cannot seem to forgive that 7 year issue. But still, she is sticking around...

I dunno. Maybe you can try to steer this around all by yourself. Be assertive, in control. Tell her you'd like to take her out to dinner a friend. Not a husband. See how she responds. If she responds positively then you can try to connect with her deeper through the 'friend' angle. Then she might slowly overcome her ego.

Good luck!