He was shouting at her, and then locked her in a room. It was scary. We don't do that with her. He has never wanted to let her cry it out. If he did, he should have approached me with a plan of some sort.
He talks about meetings he's missing, and how his boss wanted him to get something to him and he didn't (he hurt his arm.) he was upset yesterday b/c his boss didn't ask how he was, only that he was upset he didn't get him this thing.
He barely gets by. It's sort of like what I talk about with my IC - it was always "just about what was needed" that made me crazy. Like nothing egregious - he was there - in the R - but never really there. (My issue for choosing this). I see this behavior in his work life too. Kind of doing the minimum then covering his $ss. He hasn't been to the office in weeks, as far as I know. But no one notices b/c his boss is in CA and his "team" is him (the manager) and one other person ... and he's very very good to her.
My mom seems overwhelmed by the idea. I haven't officially approached her with it until today. She was kind of in denial. She offered to pay rent here for two months, but I said I wasn't sure what that would accomplish. I didn't want to owe her more money and I can't really afford this long term and the way the real estate market is in these towns in this county, it's impossible to find what I can afford (improbable, I should say). So today I said I'm freaked out. I can't subsist like this. I can't work 16 hours a day and not sleep and have no support from exBF and live in a place I can't afford. Basically I asked her to help me look for places, brainstorm, ask around. I said, "I'm not asking to move home; that wouldn't be idea for me." I think she thinks I'm subtly trying to tell her that, but I reminded her I'm not a subtle person. I'd come right out with it - I said the benefit for me would be paying off my debt and having a bit of savings before I move on and find another home for D and I. Or, I move into another place I can just about afford and carry this debt. And deal with D's sleep issues, etc. On my own.
Yes, here is ideal, and I even thought about the roommate thing again, but my neighbors could here D shrieking last night. Who would want to live here? We're here all the time.
I have a couple potential long-term contracts, but nothing solid yet. IDK!
