Living in the trenches....Thread #5

[workinghardguy]

Hey Navy... I think you did ok... you set some boundaries and got some info. I may not have thrown in the last apology and getting into the "weeds" of who did what probably didn't help, but you stood your ground.

W and I did the same dance a few weeks back. I was tired of being treated like crap so I told her to stop. It ended up sounding a lot like your convo. Validation, apologies, listening, and so on. Since then things have been much more positive in our house. She doesn't feel that I'm trying to restore our M, or at least expecting her to restore our M, so she doesn't feel the need to be toxic and mean.

Oddly enough since having a little detachment epiphany this morning I found myself being much less nice to her. Not mean, just not overly nice. Positive with the kids and such, but just disinterested in her and her life. Guess we'll see where that goes.