I think in this case part of it is the mind of the WAS and part of it is just her nature. She has typically been the less organized and less responsible person in the relationship. I think that's a contributor to the mess we're in right now. It's like she wants freedom without responsiblity. But then again, a lot of us are in that boat, no?
I used to ride her about being organized and about responsibilities. I know it took its toll in our M. I've spent the last 3 years after bomb #1 and MC learning just to relax and accept her for who she is. I've learned overlook some of things that bothered me. Now I feel like if we D, there is a risk I'll start picking up and thinking about those things that bother me about her. Even going through the seperation some of those traits are magnified.
