What was I an idiot? Of course there's an OM...

[workinghardguy]

Yes, I was too available. My first instinct was to say "too bad, deal with it" but I didn't listen for some reason. The shopping without kids is because of poor planning... last weekend before Halloween and the SS and SD are with their dad.

The rest of the items though are a bit contextual... my mom was over visiting when W got home and took nap. I didn't really want to get up and leave with my mom visiting.

As far as dinner... I actually did say that this was what I had picked up for dinner. If she wanted something else she could make it. S had already eaten.

This is the one issue I have with your replies Sandi... you make huge assumptions and then post semi-attacking replies in response. Of course the kids helped... we have a routine. SS loads the dishwasher, SD clears the heavy stuff, S clears the light stuff, W helps the S, and I do the hard pots/cooking items. They just paused the movie while we did that. I suppose I should've said "we cleaned up supper" but whatever.

As far as pressing... I just don't agree. The last time I saw her this sad and with these non-verbals was three weeks ago. I didn't ask her then what was wrong. A week later she tells me that on that night she was very, very depressed and had thoughts of self-harm. So, if it's pressing then it's pressing but it's a heck of a hand to be dealt. I'd rather press once in a great while and maybe intercede before something tragic. This is the first time I've asked her what was wrong in months. I certainly can't ever have a hope of recon or any type of R if she's dead.