W texted me during service about wanting to change plans so she could go Halloween shopping.
Being too available and predictable. Also, babysitting for her while she had the afternoon to "shop". Who goes to buy costumes without the kid?
And then she goes home and takes a nap. This would have been a good time to beat her to the punch (before she heads to take a nap) that you are leaving (alone) and don't know what time you'll be back.
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Asked W what she wanted to do for supper
If you were not going to leave, why didn't you just cook whatever you and the kids wanted? Make it about them! Make it a fun event.
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I grilled up supper and her and S watched a movie while eating supper.
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I cleaned up supper
Chief cook and bottle washer? While they watch TV, you cook and clean up after everyone? Why not have the older kids involved with clean-up? That presents a bonding time with parent-kids. They might not like it at first, since they are used to being waited on, but eventually they would start talking about things going on with them.
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Had a few interactions with W and she was ok with me, but just owly and grumpy overall. But not grumpy and owly with me... again, weird.
Does that mean you tried to start a few conversations with her?
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At one point, when we were alone, I asked her if everything was ok.
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She said she was fine. I told her she seemed upset
You were pressing! I know what you said about the C, but you were pushing her.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
