Hi, I think your W is sensing a real change in you, and like DB says they do, she is very intrigued by it. It's making her nuts not knowing what is going on all the time. Just because she wants a D, doesn't necessarily mean it's over. She may feel she has to go through with it because she started it, and has to finish it.
It sounds like you are having a great time with your kiddos. Good for you. I am sure you are really enjoying that. Your kids will thrive with a loving father.