Well had a great full week with my son since my W pulled a change midweek and decide to go on vacation by herself. She did start calling to talk to our son again which was more for her than him. He is only 2 and doesn't really understand whats going on. He didn't want to talk to her half the time which was weird. When W called she seemed nice most the time and was very appreciative for switching schedules with my S.

I did verify through our Health Savings Account that she has seen a psychiatrist and is on a drug called Celexa. I really do think my wife has a psychiatric problem that was there way before this stitch started. There is way to many events to explain to try to explain the whole marriage but I do think she has a real problem. She even said suicidal stuff in our marriage that I would help her with and I think I was naive about it when she said things like that. I think my wife is trying to deal with her problem by herself and is embarrassed to admit she has a problem to anyone, including me.

I don't know how to help a person who needs help but won't let anyone help them. I hope and pray she is getting help from the new psychiatrist. She seems happier in the last 2 weeks or so but I don't know anything enough to know if any of it is real progress or the drugs that she is taking to help with her problem or what.

I have read a lot about bipolar and other mental illnesses and the more I read the more I convinced she really has an issue. I don't think some of my behaviors made her problem easier but like I said didn't really see it until now when I'm able to reflect on her behaviors. She had problems with her family and our marriage since we have been married.

I'm not sure LRT is the right method to employ in my situation or not. Her family all have signs of the same mental illness and have difficulties in relationships, work, life, and whatever else. I'm not just saying this to blame my M on these problems but I'm not going to ignore all the signs either.

What should I do in this situation?


Me:29
W:28
S:2
M: 5 years
Bomb: 7-26-11
Separated: 8-20-11
EA w/ multiple OMs
W filed 1/2012