SIL came over to visit today, W was at work. Found out that SIL doesn't at all feel like W said she does, and didn't say that she was being dragged into the middle of all this. She was incredulous to hear some of the things that W said - Lie #1
One of my wife's friends is/was a 23 year old that looked up to her as a big sister. She's helped him out with a lot of his tough family issues. I warned her, even during this process, to watch out for emotional transference. Even if she wasn't interested in him, he might become interested in her. A few days ago I mentioned that she could always call this friend if she didn't have anything to do. She just said she hadn't talked to him in a while. I figured that something must have happened, but didn't let my imagination run wild as that's counterproductive. I asked SIL what happened with friend, and she replied "You mean when he kissed her?" SIL said that W was freaked out and hasn't talked to him since, which I believe. However, now we have - Lie #2.
SIL wouldn't reveal things to put her S at a disadvantage out of spite. They have a great relationship, and are best friends. However, SIL also feels that I have been unjustly treated during this process. Unfortunately, this really hasn't done anything for me but make me angry. I find myself looking back at this and wonder what is bullshit and what is real. After spinning tales about how other people, who truly know me, think that I'm a failure as well, and now hiding this... My wife no longer has the moral high ground. A fact that I plan to keep to myself unless it becomes necessary to reveal it, although I admit I can't foresee any situation that would warrant it. My main goal is just to prevent my anger from dictating how I act.
I still doubt that she's cheated/cheating, but now that conviction is less strong, and I find that I care even less.
