I agree with Val. You have made alot of progress, just by recognizing things you want to work on about yourself. That is why, like JBNATI always says, in many ways, WE, the LBS are actually better off in the long run. WE grow, WE learn. Many times the WAS does not acknowledge their issues, and take them into another R.

I always wonder what my W is thinking. She certainly seems happy sometimes....(living with her is SO hard!!!! knowing there is someone else....she's out with OW RIGHT NOW) But I just don't know what's on their minds. Do they see the effect it has on the kids? Do they care? Are they so amped up on hope for a change that they have blinders? And the most important question: WHY do WE care what THEY think? but we do.....

Rick, keep focusing more and more energy on YOU and D and less and less on W and whatever the H she is thinking....:) We're still pulling for you. Vent and vent some more!!


Me (f): 45
W(f) 35
T: 13 y
C: S4 adopted at birth
6-18-11 bomb: I want to break up
8-28-11 OW confirmed