I gave myself over to family and work - pretty much because I had to; there was no time for anything else these last few years.
Now H is gone and I have even less time to do anything other than see to the kids and my home.
I have been trying to get to the gym, as I still have some time left on a previously paid membership. I also try to get out with my kids whenever I can - shopping, movies, sport, running, visiting grandparents.
And I've just told my closest friend at work about my situation (reluctantly). So I think I will be able to start to visit with her and GAL in that regard, too.
But like you, my brain won't shut off and I know this is not healthy. I'm hoping that it will change as time passes....