As bad as that sounds there comes a point we have to think about these things.
That doesn't sound bad at all. I agree with you.
Originally Posted By: totallygutted
I set my sights on a year, if I can't see any positive results with my relationship within that time I'll have to think of moving on.
However, timelines...really don't serve you well. Instead of an arbitrary 365 days...and when did that timeframe start? Today? several months ago? 350 days ago?
Just go as long as you can...and then a little longer, have no regrets at the end of your rope, because that is what it is...the end of your ability...not a date circled on a calendar.
Don't get me wrong I'd have taken a bullet for my wife, taken on a Grizzly bear naked to save her, but In my own case I have to have some guidelines or plan for my own continued survival. After all the end purpose of all this change in my life has to be for me, and to get on with my life, whether it includes my wife or not.
If there is no progress at all with my W within a year with all the changes I've made and continue to make I doubt she will be back. The other thing is has she made enough changes in her own life for me to feel comfortable letting her come back?
There has been some thawing of the ice this past two weeks, but who knows if it will last? I'm better off mentally telling my self it's over, look after my kids as I'm able work on myself. If she does come back and is willing to work on our marriage it's just a bonus
