Thanks, Ken. I'm aiming for that and this is the first time its happened in a long time. I've been good, though.
He hurt his wrist last night and didn't come back until late, and I was really good with him this morning - i had a super busy morning, but was trying to help him find a doctor, texting to check up on him. Writing thoughtful texts to him. He even called today (he rarely initiates a call) to tell me what happened in the ER.
more and more it's looking like we have to move out, unless he wants to step up and give a little beyond the minimum. I'm still only 5 weeks into my work search and things are coming in but nothing I can hang my hat on yet. Be nice if I didn't have to go crazy also looking for an apartment right now and moving farther away (there's nothing in any of the surrounding towns either b/c it's overall just a very expensive area) - if he gave me a little toward rent and utilities, I might be able to make it work. But.
So it's been a little tough being nice to him when it feels like he's leaving us in the lurch here. Trying though. And still putting in my crazy long days to do all I can.