Great advice and most days I agree. But how do you get past the anger from rejection.
This is something I struggle with. The past two months I allowed myself to be angry and feel rejected and man did it almost eat me alive.
I pray.. I pray hard. I pray that God gives me the strength to love my w when she is being so unlovable. I ask him to remind me of all the love he shows me that I can't help but do anything but love her. Because when we have experienced our darkest days and have done our darkest deeds, God still loves us.
We are not God, but we do strive to be like him or if you aren't religious - good people. It's easy to love those who love us.. it's hard to love those who harm us.
Loving our spouse looks different for each of us. Some of us - it means putting our selfish needs aside. Some of us - it means not being a doormat. You must find out what that "love" looks like for you.
I am also guilty of saying - I will not allow my anger and rejections turn into reasons to treat my w the way she is treating me. I will not sink to her level.
I try to stick with the first tactic more than the 2nd. The 2nd risks becoming bitter and why add that on top of being angry and rejected.
The feeling of anger must be experienced but not be allowed to consume you. Not for your w's sake, or your marriage's sake.. but for yours. Because no matter who you are, you don't deserve the life that one has when it is consumed by anger.
M(f): 43 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
