L2L ((())) Sorry you are struggling with the GALing.
I started by grabbing a piece of paper. I wrote down stuff that I always wanted to do. I wrote down stuff that I wanted to do with w, I wrote down stuff W didn't want me doing (you would have to read my sitch to understand that better).
Some of it was random.. ie - wanted to pierce my ears a 2nd time. Some was typical - wants to own a jeep as my 1st new car.
Putting it down on paper made it real. Then I attached timelines on when I could do it. Then when I did it - I physically crossed it off my list. That motion, even though small, felt so rewarding.
There is also a part of GAL that can be painful. I wanted to try new things, but in order to do that.. I had to deal with my demons. Learning new dances meant I had to let go of my fear of looking like an idiot. Going to social events meant I had to be comfortable with talking with strangers.. etc.
No matter what it is - it's personal growth. Whether it's getting over demons, helping keep your sanity, detaching.. these are all things to help you become a BETTER you.
So come on.. what would you do if you money, baggage, children, marriages, weren't in the picture?
I know you can think of something! Write them down here. We'll be your biggest cheerleaders!
M(f): 43 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
