Confronted spouse...now he wont come home

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I survived last week and my husband came home this past weekend. On Saturday, I told him I was no longer willing to put up with him having an affair while living in our home. I told him I had met with an attorney, bought a book on how to tell the kids about separation/divorce, had told one of our mutual friends about the affair (before last week, only a couple of my friends knew) and I needed to move on with my life. He basically agreed that it wasn't fair to me that he was continuing to try to be with both of us.

Sunday, we did some things with the kids during the day. At one point, I got emotional at a school event seeing all of the other families. He noticed and hugged me. Last night, he was very affectionate towards me (we kissed like we haven't kissed in years). The next morning, he hugged me when he went to work.

I am going to give him a couple more days (he is actually home for 4-5 days this week) and see what happens. I'm doing the Last Resort Technique but am open to talking/being with him when he wants to. He's invited me to do some things with the kids where I have said "no".

I don't think anything is solved (and won't until he tells me the affair is done). I know there is a strong possibility he could be luring me back in to thinking we have a chance so he doesn't need to leave the house.

I will talk to him again before he leaves again in a few days. I will remind him that he needs to leave the house.

I think our talk was a wake-up call to him on some level. Although, he still feels like he is in a different world and hasn't fully processed this year. For example, he claims now that he wasn't upset when I read his text messages last weekend. He felt "nothing" when he saw me look at them. I'm trying to remember to not put too much weight on anything he says.