AC,
Does keeping her on HI cost you anything? Can you do necessary detachment and still keep her on HI? She must be aware that if you D she will lose ins. So, she is really the one making this decision. Try to detach with love, I am learning the same thing. In my sitch, keeping her on HI doesnt cost me anything, I still want to keep door open, and am GALING like crazy. Seems to me you are somewhat in the same sitch, except my s I dont think is suffering major depression, but then again, what do I KNOW.

What are you doing for yourself while she is visiting?

m 54
XW 48
m 12
t 14
bomb 6-11
s 10-11
wife moved to other state 10-21-11
d 9-12

O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!