Eat That Frog

[RMC]

Kitti,
My heart hurts for you too. I know how the rejection feels.

I'm getting pretty much the same thing right now.
He's punishing me for speaking my mind last night.

I know this whole process is tiring and we are weary from the ups and downs.

I'm not sure what to tell you, but I do want you to know I understand your feelings.

((((((((KITTI))))))))) Rachael

[Trying24now]

HI BB GANG>>>

I'm posting this FOR KK, because her H is around and she can't come on the BB right now...but she wanted us all to know the following:

Although she was feeling prety down about the way her H was acting last night when she touched his arm, this morning, he came home early from work and approached her with the following:

He told her he was sorry if he'd been distant lately. He told her that he's been pretty depressed over the past few weeks and didn't know if it was being caused by the holidays or the fact that he hasn't been doing as well financially since his return home.

The beauty of that unsolicited explanation, as KK now realizes, is that HE was FINALLY forcing himself out of his own shell and pain to tell her in his own way that he ISN'T rejecting her, he's trying to deal with the stuff in his head.

KK also now realizes that HIS coming forward with that, just might be his cry for patience and understanding and HIS way of saying he's sorry for being so 'numb'.

He has asked KK if she'd like to "PARTY" tonight...He's trying, he too, apparently WANTS to break free of all the past pain and move forward into a better year with KK in 2004.

Sounds wonderful to me!!!!
T2

[RMC]

YIPPEEEE Kitti!!

How positive is that???? Thanks T2 for letting us know. Now I can feel better for her! Rachael

[psluke]

This is so nice to hear!!!!!!

I have been up and this afternoon just wanting to sit and cry and this is just the best kind of news to see!!

YEAH KITTI!!!!!!! Look out 2004! Here comes Kitti!

[MAL]

Very positive stuff here!

[KAW]

((( kitti )))

A lot of this sounds way so familar ... so let me mention something that worked for me in breaking thru with some touching barriers...

I had asked for permission to hold her hand from time to time while we sit together even if she was distant and that from time to time I'd give her a gentle squeeze to let her know I'm here for her. At times, she even started to look for it.

Oh and one other ... whenever it seemed she was having a rough time for whatever reason, I would give her a backrub. That also seemed to calm and settle her down.

'til later,
KAW

[holdingon]

Wonderful stuff, kitti!

Today, I was reading through DR AGAIN and I noticed some ideas in the sex starved marriage part. You might give some of those strategies a try.

How awesome that he poked his head out a bit, and how wonderfully understanding you are! Hang in there! I'm proud that you are hanging in there!

[KutieKat]

thank you all again for the incredible support...thank you jan for updating when i couldn't

gosh, how something SO little can change in just seconds, isn't it amazing???

doing much better now folks, and hubby and i are gonna bring in the new year together...drunk as skunks in our OWN HOME

in case anyone is wondering, i will be partying with some of my db friends this evening via chat so come and join us...go to the just for fun forum and look for a thread with my name on it...

am i the only one

ttfn

kitti

[RMC]

Kitti,
My favorite saying is, In one day everything can change.
I believe that ofI would not be here.
Have a GREAT night and do something off the wall!

Hugs, Rachael

[imalright]

kitti,

LOVE IT!