What do I do next?

[luvhurts49]

Just wanted to provide a little more background on my situation. The first 2 weeks after my W dropped the bomb (8/18/11) and decided to move out, she would come over to the house a couple times each week, have dinner with me and the kids, watch TV, and do normal family stuff that we have always done. Now during this time, my W was letting me rub her back, neck, feet, etc without any problem. She would also let me kiss her (not passionately) on occasion and she would even tell me ILY when I said it to her.

As the we got into weeks 3 and 4 of our separation, she pulled away more and more while giving new reasons as to why she left. The excuses started with problems in the present time and started going further and further into the past all the way up until we first started dating--like she was trying to find more reasons to justify her decision to leave.

Around week 7 (2 weeks ago), I decided that I needed to give her space and limit my contact and communication with her because I was driving myself nuts by always wanting to touch her and talk to her in order to "fix" our M. Unfortunately, all that the space accomplished was her filing for D on 10/20/11.

Now I feel I'm under a deadline to get her to see that we can "fix" our M. I know that there is still hope to repair our M all the way up to and beyond the date of D, but the chances diminish greatly after the D is final. My W is a very stubborn woman and I feel that if we cannot work things out before our D, then there probably isn't any hope for us.

There is some more back story to our R and M, and I will be updating as I go along, but I'm hoping to get off this full moderation so my posts are available immediately instead of having to wait 12-24 hours.