Reading this back I feel I left out some important stuff. H said he hated how I kept bringing up the past hurt. I have to talk things out and I was seeking reassurance that he just couldn't give. I realise that this behaviour has hurt my H and our relationship. I know I have issues to deal with. Four years ago he quit a good job for the one he does now. It paid less but he wanted to get out of his old job which he found stressful.. Initially he was happier but slowly he has come to hate it and is desparate to get out. He is currently working towards some qualifications that would mean a good pay increase but after 2 1/2 years he has still not done them. I tried to be supportive but made him mad by bringing that fact up and onn the other hand he says he only got work done on them when I nagged him. Most other folks take 6 mos to a year to complete. I spend hours online looking for job opportunities for him. His job can be extremely stressful. He used to say it was the biggest mistake of his life until out fight on Sun when he said that maybe his job is not so bad and that it's the stress of living a lie with me that makes it hard. I really don't know what to think about it all. he text this morning to say he will be removing some funds from our account when he gets paid and leaving the rest for my and my DDs and the bills. The message also said he will do the same next month (I guess he is planing on this being for good cry This might leave us tight for the month as we have some big additional expenses this month. I text him back a few hours later and all i put was thank you for letting me know. Any advice would be much appreciated.

I'm reading all this back again. Is this an ongoing MLC? Does he feel like a failure? He did say he has achieved nothing with his ilfe and has not been successful. He asked me if I thought I was successful and i told him i thought so until he left the first time. I had a happy husband and happy kids and a modest but nice home and life.

I'll add more thoughts as I have them.