the old must be destroyed before the new can even be contemplated

This is EXACTLY the case....it is clear that part of her does not want a D, but the D is on her 'to-do' list on her self-determined path to happiness...

I will NEVER understand this.....

H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012