New here; husband left

[workinghardguy]

Let me strongly second Accuray's reading selection. I'm almost done with it, and granted I'm a guy, it's given me some great insight. Just today I was walking to the park with my son. I was off in my head, dwelling on my sitch as we crossed the street. My S accidentally dropped the frisbee in the middle of the street.

I got angry and started to react, but then the words of the book came to me. It was the cortisol dump that happens when a guy is doing one thing and suddenly has his attention ripped away to something that startled him. Knowing this helped me swallow my anger and realize it was just a physiological reaction to a stimulus. That it would pass and not to beat myself up over it nor to overreact with my son.