Workinghardguy, I think my "hope" which has quickly gone down the drain - which may be why I had a big of a hard 24 hours - thursday into friday - (something was triggering me, but I wasn't sure what, and suspect it was this) is that someone on exBF's side would talk to him.
I'm apparently not the only one with this hope. My mom and sister kept asking if he told his dad yet.
Today, my own dad, who hasn't acknowledeged this since when I told him a month ago said, "Did his father say anything? What does he think of this?"
So I know it's my dad's hope too, that someone would say *something* - anything - to exBF.
For example. 'Are you sure?"
"Do you think that's the best decision?"
"Do you guys just need time?"
"Relationships are hard work."
IDK - anything.
Even a mutual person who knows him (a kind of friend we both had) is like "I wish I could talk to him. someone needs to talk to him."
And while I've pretty much all but given up on the thought that anyone can change him, I think our situation is particulary unique in that his mother and sister's haven't spoken to us or him in a year and a half. So they know none of this -
He has no friends.
I don't know anyone at his work.
And now the only people who do know - that also know me - and love my D (and me, I guess) are his dad and step mom (and two step siblings who are grown with children that we've been friendly with) ... there might be an aunt or uncle.
I really truly believed his aunt, at least, would talk to me. Just to see how I'm doing.
But with the PR package being "it was mutual, we decided to be friends,"
I'm afraid that it just make me look like an idiot. Like, um, no, I did not ever say this was mutual. And so telling others that so that no one would come down on him just feels sucky.
He just seems to be in a weird place. No friends, cancels his IC appts. Doesn't go into the office anymore - says his boss is "mad at him" and is living in the woods for no clear reason. Like no one can say anything to him.
