25- I have been going through some of the older posts you wrote to me. They are encouraging and help me understand. But, do you feel it all still applies. I am wondering if you feel my sitch has changed and my approach must be different than before? Is there no hope? You had said you thought if he was going to change he wouldve by now you think. I wonder though doesn't he get as much time as other was or mlc's get? Or, does the drinking make it take on another approach? I am GAL. Very busy with myself and kids. Thank you everyone for your replies, I appreciate all of the wisdom.