Didn't see that one coming...a touching and tragic story.
WHG, it appears there are some positives in your situation with your W; that's very good. You are showing the right amount of detachment, I think...just enough to keep a little bit of tension there.
Stay strong as a man, husband and father/stepfather. your every move, word and action is being weighed and measured. Your W wants to see a strong, confident and kind WHG who can be his own man yet still be the rock for the family.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS