alcoholic H decided he wants D

[MrBond]

There are a number of recent posts that had the spouses R.

"I think if someone loves you, they love you, and if they dont, they leave"

It's never that simple. There are so many layers in terms of relationships that no two are alike.

"eventually, you look around and realize what a moron you look like and get up and go about your life...
as you can see..i have not gotten there yet."

I believe you've just insulted everyone posting on this site. You're not a moron for not wanting your M to work. All you're doing is the right thing. Nothing wrong with that.

Unfortunately it comes down to the fact that you can't control the actionsn of the WAS. What you do can make a difference. It has for me and many others.