New and confused!! Need your thoughts...

[FreeBird0120]

Thanks dbmod...

New update...we spent all of Friday night and Saturday night together. Friday night he slept in the bed with me, even though he's moved all of his stuff out of our room and sleeps on the couch. I pretended to be asleep while he kept getting closer and closer to me, semi rubbing my back and when he finally got up he came over to me, knelt down and thanked me for allowing him to sleep in the bed with me and hugged me and then left for work.

Yesterday he text me and asked if we could talk with me for a little bit so I said yes. when he got home he'd brought home a twelve pack and we sat down. We just chit chatted for a little bit, and then I asked him what he wanted to talk about, and he said nothing he just wanted to hang out with me and chit chat. We spent all night just talking about casual stuff, nothing about our R or anything like that. When we decided to turn in for the night, I could tell he wanted to sleep in the bed with me again, because he just kept staring at me and semi following me around the house as I was turning things off for bed, so I looked at him and said "are you sleeping out here or did you need the bed again for your back", he claimed that the couch was hurting his back, and he said, "if its okay with you and you don't mind" and I told him it was fine. Neither night did anything happen other then sleeping next to eachother.

This morning he text me for awhile after he left for work, and then it tailed off. I found out that he'd been texting her all day yesterday and is now texting her as we speak.

I'm so confused, and I'm not sure what he wants from me. What do I do now...how do I get this EA to stop?? Can it be stopped??

My DB book hasn't come in yet, so I don't know if I'm doing the right things here...I feel like right now he has his cake and is eating it too. And like I said, since we have ended the R, we aren't technically married, but we're common law, and we are just friends at this point, that he get's to have both of us the way he wants us.

I feel like the EA is really coming close to becoming a PA, and if that happens, it just can't happen. Once it does I'm afraid that I will lose him to her. She's still married herself, and is currently hiding her "friendship" with my H from her H...

I'm so scared and confused and don't know what to do at this point. Please help me...