Self and relationship discovery abounds(on my part) Wife still her self. Wife has admited to with holding sex as punishment for behavior she deems bad. IE not taking out the trash, or something similar, but refuses to grant sex as a reward. That is messed up in itself. Sadly I am turning into a walk away husband. She has turned us into roomates in effect, and that is how I am treating her. I took the family to the state fair last sunday, all was well. I watched both kids as she worked that saturday, even cleaned the house. I got nary a thanks, other that "it's household duties and she EXPECTED it to be done". My birthday was the prior thursday. No card, no gifts from her or the kids, no sex. We did go out to eat. However it was because she did not want to cook, and felt guilty about trying to make me cook on my birthday. As to GAL....I have been working hard on my auto restoration project as much as time permits. Due to financial constraints I am doing as much small and cheap stuff as possible. The good side is that she is sadly forced to spend a few hours with the kids as I am outside. This is giving her a better understanding of how it can stress her out for the 2 hours I am outside, but yet I have to deal with it for 11+ hours when she works 2 weekends a month. I have time to write this today as she took the kids and went with her mother, sister, and nephew halfway across the state to her grandmothers family reunion. This is a 100% her function. She asked me last night if I was going, I replied, it depends on your actions in the next few hours. She looked puzzled. Well she came to bed over 1hour after I did. almost midnight. So this morning she asked again and I told her No I was not going. I am upset that you can devote so much time to work, the kids schools party last night, and now devote a full day to family you see once a year, who otherwise have NOTHING to do with you, but you can't even give your husband 5 minutes!!
