I think you know what you can do better in terms of less talking and more listening. It takes practice. Take advantage of your opportunities.
The physical separation can be double-edged sword. On one hand it gets you away from the drama. On the other hand, it can get your W used to being without you AND your S will only live with you part time. My suggestion would be not to intiate it, but if it happens, capitalize on the positive side of it.
It's good that you're willing and able to own your part in this, but as you've figured out, both of you are responsible for the deterioration of the relationship. Your W, however, has been the one to take the inappropriate direction.
You can take advantage of this situation to truly find yourself. And - you ARE worthy of being loved for who you are.
