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At this point in time it is NOT helpful to direct her to this site or for her to read the book. It will actually work AGAINST YOU.
Right now, you want to avoid pushing therapy, don't whine, beg, plead, all of those things.
DO Listen when she wants to talk. Pay attention. Try to really understand what her complaints are. Make it safe for her to really say what she wants to say. Don't try to force it, just allow it, encourage it by your actions. Be helpful.
In the meantime, focus on the POSITIVES because what you focus on expands.
