wow Sandi -- this is so true: IMHO, until you get your focus off her and onto a life for you that doesn't include her......Nothing is going to work out. You have to be unavailable. You have to stop being her babysitter, her secretary, housekeeper, and her parent. Those are not people she would find sexually attractive and want to sleep with.
I needed to read that as well. My W has told me I try too hard, that she doesn't need a servant, a mom, etc..... Hmmm... I too need to become unavailable. Why is this all so hard????? I think we LBS think too much and try too hard across the board.
I did get a chuckle WHG when you said something about how if they knew how much energy we put into communication with them they'd come back out of sheer amazement. LMAO. That was hilarious to me for some reason!!
Me (f): 45 W(f) 35 T: 13 y C: S4 adopted at birth 6-18-11 bomb: I want to break up 8-28-11 OW confirmed
