How often we say that we are making changes in ourselves, for OUR benefit... when in reality, we secretly or unconsciously believe that if we just do this or be like that or... that our spouses will notice and come back to us...
I think I was making the changes for me, but you're right of course; I'd been hoping it would change something about the way my W felt about me. It's apparent now that no amount of change will make any impact on our relationship. So now she is just the mother of my children, and maybe someday she'll be a friend.
