JB, right there with you on your thoughts about your wife. I think they're "normal"....at least I have the same feelings. I love the woman I know she really is but am very perplexed and upset by what she is right now and what she is doing to our family.
I think you hit the nail on the head. At times I am just outright disgusted by the life my W is making for herself. But I still love her, even when she's not easy to love. After all, I guess this is the "for worse" part of my vows. Or maybe it's the "in sickness" part.
Part of my life is great, probably better than it's ever been. Part of it is crap. I choose to concentrate on the part that's great as much as I am able.
After all, I guess this is the "for worse" part of my vows. Or maybe it's the "in sickness" part. 
