I will only offer this, the counselor will probably lead...
So whatever your vision of how the session might go... understand that it could go any other way BUT the way you envision it...
I'm aware, and expecting the worst. But since she already wants divorce and sees no light at the end of the tunnel, I'm having a difficult time seeing how my situation could get worse.
Good, although I understand what you are saying and it is ok to expect the worst... don't feel you have to... it just helps if we fail to see positives... takes the sting out...
I can tell you and many others here can, as well... until the WAS is ready to work on their own stuff, MC often becomes a place the WAS uses to point out every bad thing the LBS has done...
Having a strong constitution during this time is imperative. It's like standing tall and strong while your wife beats on your chest because of some anguish she's feeling and not bowing down... Listen... even if you find it difficult to validate, just look at your W when she's talking and do your best to remain calm and do not refute unless the counselor gives you the floor...
When you are given the floor, do not speak on your W's comments. Stick with your own agenda. Again, if your W refutes while you are speaking, just keep speaking or look to the counselor to interject and give you the floor again...
Again, these may or may not be things you already know. I'm just repeating them to keep them in your mind.
