"she still sees (and obviously detests) the old me, while I detest the new her."

Unfortunately, that is very well-said...and the truth for most of us.

H 56
W 48
D27,S21
SS25
SS22 Severely autistic
M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs.
"I've never loved you" 3/7/2011
Separated 8/7/2011
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