Gunny, It is probably a good time to begin another thread. This one is over 100 posts and will likely get locked. Some people here like to link threads and it will not be possible to link this one to your next after it is locked. Your call.
It was difficult to keep up morale after STBX left. She moved out in stages. I found it helped me to do things to the house leaving my mark upon it. Over the summer I painted the exterior, cleaned the yard and landscaped. I even put up a martin house my father and I had made 45 yrs ago, and I GAL’ed like a fiend.
Now that the weather is turning I will begin to do things to the interior as funding permits. Point is I am making this space mine rather than what was ours. I am not intentionality erasing evidence of her yet rather I am changing things I compromised on to better reflect me.
In my experience this phase was harder in the beginning. It became easier the more I took charge of myself and my environment. The time and distance permitted me to focus more on my improvements and my GAL. It became easier. You are in control.
Listen to what your coach and the other professionals you are working with are advising you to do. The people here all intend to help from their point of view based on what they perceive about the posts they have read. It is up to each of us to filter and apply the information and advice that we perceive fits the situation we find ourselves in.
Remember what General OP Smith said at the Chosin Reservoir.
Semper Fidelis
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
