Trying not to hope is hard

[2thepoint]

Here are my initial observations:

"I feel like in order to trust you, I need to understand you and your choices/judgments. how about something a little more subtle like - I want to be able to trust you so it would be helpful for me to understand your choices/judgement

Your compassion for everyone seems to have grown in the past year, except for me. Have you tried to understand what life may have been like for me during the past 5 years? What is your understanding? How about a little more affirmation - I admire your growing compassion for others. These past 5 years have been really tough for me, what needs to happen to be able to see some compassion directed towards me?

Why did you marry me? I wouldn't ask this question. Need to be forward looking not in the rear view mirror.

I married you because I believed I had found a partner that would stick by me through anything. This is a woe is me statement. Try to avoid if possible.

I am who I am. I was indecisive when I was younger, but 10 years ago I made a decision and stuck with it. This is different than you; you were decisive when you were young. A little argumentative. What do you hope to get from this?

What is my idea of the high life? Don't know what this means...

What does your ideal relationship look like? How about something more specific like "what would an ideal relationship that includes you and me look like?

How do you think your life will improve by being divorced?" How about something like - Do you think your life will improve after divorce? If so how?

Hope this is helpful. Feel free to disagree, I'm just providing a 2nd set of eyes for you.

Take care!