Also, tomorrow is MC. After a long week I think I'm finally ready to ask some hard questions. I'm hoping for feedback on the volatility, hopefully lack thereof, in these questions.
I have one main goal and one secondary hope (not necessarily goal).
1) To take the advice of my IC and simply let her know how I feel in a non-romantic way.
2) To give her some things to think about, perhaps an opportunity for a different frame from which to view things.
So here are my questions. Going to open with trust, since that's what we've been talking about during MC.
"I feel like in order to trust you, I need to understand you and your choices/judgments.
Your compassion for everyone seems to have grown in the past year, except for me. Have you tried to understand what life may have been like for me during the past 5 years? What is your understanding?
Why did you marry me?
I married you because I believed I had found a partner that would stick by me through anything.
I am who I am. I was indecisive when I was younger, but 10 years ago I made a decision and stuck with it. This is different than you; you were decisive when you were young.
What is my idea of the high life?
What does your ideal relationship look like?
How do you think your life will improve by being divorced?"
Unsure about those last 3, probably won't ask them. Feedback is appreciated!
