Looking for the silver lining...

[irishblessings]

Another indignant email arrived today at work. Documented the exact times of texts to son during the day and said S wasn't responding and this was the reason for his continued frustration.

Well, I was at work all day - after getting S up at 5:30am for basketball practice. So sorry you are frustrated - or hurt - or angry. Really????!!!!

I realized today as XH continues to exhibit these self-righteous, narcissistic and arrogant behaviors that he believed that S would be wanting to hang with him all of the time. He really thought there would be no change in their relationship. The thought that S would be angry or would be disapproving of X's choices is just so shocking to him.

I do not respond to these messages. Not to agitate him - but really to redirect myself away from the chaos and crisis. I am working very hard on improving my relationship with S and keeping him focused on positive things.

Divorce Care class has been very helpful. Sometimes the ideology might not match but the advice and suggested boundaries are really helpful.