CTH, I agree with SunFunOne. Take time and find you again! I, too looked around right after things were done and it was disaster. Now, 18 months out I'm in a much better place to attract a "quality" person. Patience, patience, patience. She will be worth the wait.
I did a Rebuilding Seminar for 10 weeks and it did wonders. Also, look for meetup groups in your area to find others with your same interests (not necessarily for dating).
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10