Need Encouragement part deux

[Telemark]

"I just wondered if I had been more hard line whether or not she would have had second thoughts if her "plans" were really worth the sacrifices. IDK. I tried not to be an AH and tried to protect my S12. Perhaps she would have filed no matter what."

I understand this. Fact is, we can "what if" and "woulda/coulda/shoulda" until we drop dead and it changes nothing.

Sometimes I'm glad I did not take a hard line with my W. Other times I wonder if I simply looked more weak and pathetic by not doing so.

All we can do is learn from this and apply what we have learned to our life and our relationships.